Truly the wisest and kindest man I have known was my Dad. Though he has been gone for twelve years he lives in our hearts and through what he taught us. I am now old enough to really grasp what he was trying to teach me and I would like to share it with you. The few things I have learned along the way I will put in parenthesis, He was so much better at keeping it short and sweet than I am.
Dealing with others (Simple but not easy) 1. Everyone is doing the best they can with the beliefs they have. 2. I am not responsible for your happiness or unhappiness - but I AM FOR MINE. - I teach others how to treat me. (by how I treat them). - I will not blame others (I am responsible for me). 3. I will avoid rescuing ---patiently. Don't do what others SHOULD and COULD do for themselves). 4. Dialogue Perception - (takes time and effort but worth it, I am a big fan of writing it out) - Check what happened - Explore why it happened - Invite exploring how can I keep it from happening again. 5. Decide who owns the problem (be responsible). - If I am unhappy use "I" language. - If others are unhappy use "you" language 6. Use logical consequences - determine beforehand and follow through, mutual agreement 7. Celebrate Progress -Don't emphasize failures |